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(CNN) After horrific events like shootings or attacks by terrorists, parents are faced with this dilemma: What do I tell my kids? How can I talk to them about something so senseless and indiscriminate? About something that we can’t make sense of ourselves?

Limiting media exposure is key

How to reassure your child

Helping teens open up

Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center

If you need additional help with talking to your children regarding their feelings of grief and anxiety related to national or personal family events , please contact us at the Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center at 973-948-2283. We are available for group and individual counseling.

Follow us each week in the New Jersey Sunday Herald as we celebrate our 40th Anniversary by looking back at 40 Moments in our history. Learn how the organization was started and how we are still pioneers in the field of hospice care.

Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice was selected by SAGE Video to participate in “In Practice Video Series.” SAGE is currently developing a large collection of short, educational videos designed to supplement their collection of texts and academic materials by extending learning to practice – to show students and professors how the skills and theories in the texts can be applied in the workplace. The videos are developed to demonstrate effective practices as well as spark discussion and reflection in the classroom.

The Hospice was selected to participate in the Social Work video collection.  Through interviews and footage of our social workers in the field and in-office, students will be able to see the skills, traits and practices involved in being a hospice social worker as they are applied in everyday activities and interactions. 

“We were very honored to be the selected hospice for this education series,” said Marlina Schetting, COO, Administrator at the Hospice. “Out of all the hospices, nationwide, our name and reputation earned us this opportunity. It says a lot about the work we do and the impact our hospice has nationwide.”

Five Pebbles, production company led the development, production and editing of the video series. They sent a team to capture footage on a two-day shooting schedule.

SAGE Publishing is a leading international publisher of higher-education textbooks, journals and digital resources with offices in California, D.C., and London.

Five Pebbles, production company led the development, production and editing of the video series. They sent a team to capture footage on a two-day shooting schedule.

The videos can be viewed by clicking on the links below. The segments give an overview of the organization and a closer look at one component of the interdisciplinary team that is assigned to each patient. 

Interdisciplinary Teams

Life Review

Hospice Care

Cultural Competence

Group Grief Counseling

Grief and Bereavement

            Members of the “Hero Club,” were recently recognized with a plaque and champagne reception at the Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center in Augusta. Each members of the club made a donation of $3,000 which will permanently fund the Children’s Art Bereavement Program. The money will go into an enduring endowment for the purpose of endowing scholarships to the program for children whose families would not otherwise be able to afford the $100 fee.

            The program helps children deal with grief after the loss of a loved one. “One in 20 children suffers the loss of a close family member by the age 18,” said John Quinlan, director of foundation at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice.

            The art program, for children ages 6-12, helps them deal with the loss through artistic expression. It meets for two hours one night a week for four weeks, using art to help the children get in touch with their feelings. Parents must participate as well in a simultaneous group. This group is intended to be educational and supportive in nature.

            The program meets at the Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center on Plains Road in Frankford. The next session will start on Tuesday, July 9, from 1 p.m. – 3 p.m. and will continue on Tuesdays throughout the month ending on Tuesday, July 30. The theme of the program is the jungle.

            About 30 children a year go through the program, which is held in the Spring, Summer and Fall, and about half of those cannot afford the cost, which the foundation has been paying as a scholarship, which creates a budget shortfall, Quinlan said.

            Members recognized at the reception include: The Family of Ronald and Mary Ellen Donner, The Families of Norman and Deirdre Worth and Michael and Margie Maneri, The Dietz Family, Kiwanis Club of Sparta, Heather and Peter Ronco in Honor of Ellen V. Nowicki, Parishioners of St. Mary’s Episcopal Church – Sparta, John and Peggy Post, Gregory and Jackie Buckalew, The Friends of Hospice, “Thank You Mom” Foundation, The Families of Joseph and Julia Quinlan, Paul and Maria Armstrong and Frederic and Karen DiMaria.

            Ten children are enrolled in each bereavement program class session. These programs have been offered for more than fifteen years. They were created in order to address the unmet needs of grieving children, who are frequently known as the “forgotten mourners.”

            “From a developmental perspective, young children lack the verbal capacity to express their grief, often leading to internalized emotions, which in turn can lead to somatic symptoms,” said Diana Sebzda, MA, LCP, FT, director of bereavement.

            “Since its inception, the program has provided an expressive outlet for bereaved children to get their “inside feelings out,” convey their emotions, process their feelings of grief and learn coping strategies to help in,” said Sebzda.

            “The generosity of the members of the ‘Hero Club,’ means that we will always be able to offer this program to the community. The help and support we can provide to these children can change their lives. Thank you, thank you, thank you,” said Sebzda.

            Anyone families interested in registering for the upcoming Children’s Art Bereavement Session can do so online at karenannquinlanhospice.org/CAT or by calling the Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center directly at 973-948-2283. Individual and family counseling is also available to anyone in the community suffering the loss of a loved one. The Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center is funded entirely from donations.

Congratulations to our recent Patient Care Hospice Volunteer Graduates! The next training course will be in September at the Bereavement Center in Augusta. Call 973-383-0115 ext. 121 for more details.

Nurses week is celebrated May 6 – 12 nationally. The purpose of this week-long celebration is to raise awareness of the value of nursing and help educate the public about the role nurses play in meeting the healthcare needs of Americans. The week ends on May 12, the birthday of Florence Nightingale.

Students at the Ogdensburg Public School with the help of one of their teachers Lisa Bruning have been working hard to make “thank you” cards for the nurses at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice.  Lisa also enlisted the help of fellow teachers grades K-2 to help make cards as well.

When asked why they chose the local, not-for-profit hospice as recipients of the cards Lisa Bruning said.  “I think it is important for the kids to have an understanding of how working together in a small community can be so impactful and Karen Ann Quinlan has been a staple in this community for many years.”

Chelsea Choma, RN, BSN, MSN, CHPN, Clinical Director at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice helped students kick-off the week-long celebration at Ogdensburg school at a special assembly for grades K-2 where she read the book, “Germs Are Not For Sharing,” by Elizabeth Verdick. After the reading, she did an exercise with the children about sneezing and covering their noses to avoid spreading germs. The kids all giggled as Chelsea sprayed them with a water bottle to imitate what it is like to be sneezed on.

“Lisa and I have been friends since the second grade and it was a wonderful experience to blend our two careers together to help spread education to the community. Engaging with all the students and being able to educate them on what a community nurse is and the types of things we do every day was a fulfilling experience.”   At the end of the assembly Choma was presented with more than 40 handmade cards to be given to the nurses at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice.

“This will be such a personal and touching surprise for all of the nurses to receive these cards.  The nurses at Karen Ann Quinlan give so much to their patients and families every day. I am so proud to be able to present them with individual notes thanking them for their hard work”

“Nurses help people when they are sick,” said student Delila Nardini with a smile.

            Hospice nurses focus entirely on end-of-life care. A hospice nurse provides hands-on nursing care around the clock in the patient’s home or wherever the patient calls home. Hospice nurses manage pain and other symptoms, provide support to patients and families and assist in the process of death with dignity.

            Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice will hold a special breakfast in recognition of the special work that their nurses do. They also encourage everyone in the community to take time out to thank a nurse. “Nurses are at the forefront of improving patient care and transforming healthcare,” said Choma, “It’s nice to have a week to officially recognize all that they do to make our lives better.”

            The Karen Ann Quinlan Memorial Foundation is passionately dedicated to providing Hospice care for the terminally ill and bereavement counseling for those who have lost loved ones. Serving Sussex and Warren Counties NJ and Northeast PA. We are an independently owned hospice and proud to be the preferred hospice provider for Newton Medical Center and area Atlantic Health Care System.  For hospice programs, events, and more information visit www.karenannquinlanhospice.org.

We would like to thank Subaru World of Newton – a member of the World Auto Group for their generous support of the Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice Mission. As recipients of this year’s “Share the Love” campaign, Chris Dexter, general manager, presented a check for $16,685 to Julia Quinlan at a ceremony held today at the dealership. Thank you!..and thanks to everyone who bought a Subaru during the promotional period.

Q: Who will care for my pet when I am gone?

A: When facing a life-limiting illness many patients worry about who will take care of their beloved pets once they are gone.

Having a plan in place can help ease some of the worry and anxiety. Some options include: a will provision, a pet trust, a DIY pet protection agreement or an informal agreement with a family member or friend.

Every year between five and seven million companion animals enter animal shelters due to the death of their owners, reports the American Human Association. Of these, approximately three to four million are euthanized (60% of dogs and 70% of cats) when adequate homes cannot be found for them. Older pet owners usually have older pets that can be hard to find adoptive homes for.

Placing a pet in a shelter who has spent most of its life in a loving home, sharing a bed, sitting on the couch surrounded by its toys and memories can be very stressful to the pet. If no provisions have been made and no family or friends are able to step forward and care for the pet, a “no-kill” pet rescue organization like Father John’s Animal House in Lafayette can be an option to help the pet find a new home.

If you are caring for a pet whose owner has already died it’s important to evaluate if you have the financial means, space or time to take care of the pet. Also, find out if there are any provisions made for the pet in the owners will. These provisions can be helpful in providing financially for a pet’s care over the long-term.

Also, since a will goes into effect only upon your death, it cannot provide care for your pets if you become seriously ill.

A pet trust is a legal process that transfers ownership of your pets to a trust, which includes instructions for their care and money to pay for it. You name a caregiver, and you appoint a trustee to oversee that care and any related expenses. If you do not name a caregiver and trustee, the State of New Jersey will do so. Pet trusts are valid in the state of New Jersey.

If you opt for a living pet trust, as opposed to one that kicks in after you die, you provide for your pets if you become unable to care for them because of serious illness.

A DIY Pet Protection Agreement like the one available through LegalZoom, is valid in all states. This legal document allows you to specify a caregiver for your pets and leave money for their care. A Pet Protection Agreement is a contract between the pet owner and the pet guardian. The signature of both parties on the agreement makes it legal.

You can also set up an informal arrangement with a trusted family member or friend to take your pets when you die. It cost nothing to come to such an arrangement. You should make sure all family members and friends know about the agreement and will not put up a fight for your pets too. With this type of agreement, you have no control over the care of your pets after you die.

Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice sponsoring an “Our Pet, Advance Care Planning” Workshop on Friday, May 3, 2:30 p.m. – 4:30 p.m. at the Senior Life Center at SCCC. This FREE, informative workshop will host a panel of experts to review how to make sure your wishes for your pet are carried out if you are no longer with us. It will also cover topics on how to care for a pet who is facing a life-limiting illness, how to cope with your anticipatory grief and some options for honoring and memorializing your pet when they pass away. Those interested can register online at karenannquinlanhospice.org/OurPets or call 973-383-0115 ext. 145.

Paper shredding or document destruction is critical for safe keeping confidential and sensitive information. Most of us create and keep files with sensitive content; examples of which are bills, financial statements, marketing plans, employee files, and even delivery packages. Join us this Saturday 4/13 for the SK Paper shred fundraiser at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice located on 99 Sparta Avenue in Newton. The event runs from 9a – Noon. The cost is $6 per grocery sized bag. Bags can be purchased in advance for $5 at our office. Office hours are 8:30a – 4:30p Monday – Friday.

Businesses are welcome to participate!

There are laws that penalize improper disposal of documents with sensitive and confidential content. Organizations that hold personal data but neglect to protect it face financial and legal consequences. Employers for example use paper shredding services to get rid of employee files which are no longer in use.

Shredded paper gets recycled!

Numerous trees are cut down in order to make paper. To protect forests, people advocate a “paperless society”, and only use paper as a last resort. Reusing and recycling strips and bits from paper shredding machines is also another method of preserving forests.

Keep your personal information safe!

Identity theft cases are prevalent, and increasingly becoming a huge threat with the advent of the Internet. It’s considered ‘best practice’ for organizations and individuals to shred mail and delivery boxes to avoid identity theft and fraud.

It’s time to Spring clean!

Piles of papers cause clutter and increase the risks of fire. Offices need to constantly get rid of these papers as part of an organization-wide records management system. At home, clear away some of that clutter and paper to make space for something meaningful to you and your family.

Marlina Schetting, MSW, LCSW, CT
Acting Executive Director
Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice

Marlina Schetting, MSW, LCSW, CT, has been named the acting executive director at Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice.

“Through her many years of dedicated service to the organization, Marlina has demonstrated the skills needed to assume the role of acting executive director,” said Julia Quinlan, co-founder and chairman of the governing board.

Schetting will be the key management leader of Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice, Karen Ann Quinlan Home for Hospice and the Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center. She is responsible for overseeing the administration, programs and strategic plan of the organization. She will report directly to the governing board.

A longtime member of the hospice interdisciplinary team, Schetting has served the agency in several capacities for over 30 years and most recently as community administrator.

Schetting obtained her bachelor of science degree in human development from the University of Hawaii at Manoa and her master’s degree in social work from Marywood University. She holds a certification in thanatology from the Association of Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) and a certification in field instruction from Rutgers University.

Schetting began her tenure with the Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice as a hospice volunteer in 1986. She was instrumental in starting early bereavement programs such as “Camp Connections” Teen Camp and the Children’s Art Bereavement Program. Schetting has worked as an adjunct professor at Rutgers University School of Social Work, where she lectured on death and dying. She continues to supervise student social work interns in the tri-state area as a certified field instructor.

Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice was founded by the Quinlan family in 1980 to provide support to patients and families dealing with a life-limiting illness. This support allows patients to live life on their own terms and face the future with the dignity and comfort that we all deserve.

David Wilt, Sales Consultant/Assistant Manager at Subaru World of Newton shows the progress so far with the annual Share the Love campaign. Final results are not yet in, but by all accounts it was a great year!

Michael Fernandez, Sales Consultant/Assistant Sales Manager (l) and Stephon Hammonds, Senior Sales Consultant, demonstrate how they were able to track how many customers bought cars and directed the donation to Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice.

The Subaru Share the Love campaign ran from November 15, 2018 to January 2, 2019. Subaru will donate $250 for every new Subaru vehicle purchased or leased at more than 628 participating Subaru retailers nationwide to the customer’s choice of a selection of local charities.

From November 15, 2018 to January 2, 2019, Subaru will donate $250 for every new Subaru vehicle purchased or leased at more than 628 participating Subaru retailers nationwide to the customer’s choice of the following national charities: The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals® (ASPCA®), Make-A-Wish®, Meals on Wheels America® and National Park Foundation.

In addition to the four national charity partners, Subaru retailers across the country have selected 681 local charitable organizations to support during this year’s Subaru Share the Love Event. Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice was selected as the local charity recipient by Subaru World of Newton. Eleven years running, this year’s Subaru Share the Love Event marks the third consecutive year there will be no cap placed on the total donation from Subaru of America to its charitable partners. By the end of this year’s event, the automaker hopes to exceed a grand total of $140 million donated since the Subaru Share the Love Event started in 2008.

“For more than a decade, the Subaru Share the Love Event has contributed to improving the lives of those it touches and worked to fulfill our Love Promise,” said Alan Bethke, Senior Vice President of Marketing, Subaru of America, Inc. “Working with local charitable organizations has allowed us and our retailers to support those in need across the country in meaningful ways.”

Subaru of America, Inc. marked it’s 50^th Anniversary in the United States in 2017. Subaru World of Newton is located on 84 Hampton House Rd, Newton, NJ 07860

“We are so thankful for the continued support of Subaru World of Newton,” said Julia Quinlan. “There are so many families in the communities we serve that will benefit from this generosity.”

The Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice is a not-for-profit organization which provide a full continuum of high quality medical, emotional and spiritual services to individuals requiring hospice, family members and the community.